Somewhere along the way, many of us bought into the idea that parenting would just come naturally. You know, the suggestion that we are all born with the instincts needed to successfully raise our brood. I’ve got news for you. That idea may be true for monkeys and gophers where instincts are essential to survival of the species, but here in our human reality nothing could be further from the truth.
The problem with that idea is that we possess more than just instincts. Our existence goes beyond survival. God created man with a higher purpose and with that comes a responsibility to raise our children to know and appreciate His plan and calling on their lives.
Many parents have never taken the time to consider their parenting objectives. You know – the things we strive to teach our children before they are grown. If you do not know where you are going, any road will take you there. However, if you develop goals and objectives, you become intentional about devising a plan or strategy that will bring those purposes to fruition.
Of course, we all want our children to be well-behaved, happy, and successful. However, within every family those terms are bound to be defined in very different ways. I believe parenting objectives need to be specific and the strategy for attaining them uncompromising.
What are your parenting objectives?
Take a moment to consider what is really important to you for your children right now. Is it that they are the most popular at school, the best player on the team, or that they hit the honor roll every semester? Let’s try again. What is really important to you for your children that will continue to impact their lives 10, 20 and 50 years from now? Did that change your answer?
With the long term in mind, try and develop at least five specific parenting objectives for your children. The following include some ideas to help get you started in your thought process:
a) To own an attitude of gratitude and thankfulness
b) To find joy regardless of their circumstances, and not just pursue happiness
c) To understand that forgiveness and mercy are gifts to be given generously
d) To know how to compromise without being a doormat
e) To honor God’s wisdom and filter man’s teachings through His Word
f) To place a priority on family and taking care of each other’s needs
g) To understand that sometimes being a leader means being a servant
h) That it is good to work hard and with excellence
Having parenting objectives changes everything.
When we understand our true long term objectives as a parent, it changes the way we choose to spend our time and resources. Our priorities shift as we focus on things that truly matter in the long run, and put less emphasis on the here and now. Are you ready to start raising a generation that will change the world or are you content with giving them the status quo?